Crasses et Voluptés

The Wild Woman is the antidote to the common self-development fallacy, which operates on “not being enough.” By taking yet another course, yet another coaching session, yet another kind of yoga-meditation-exercise-diet program, we believe we will finally achieve what it takes to be loved, successful, and “enough.”

Media, advertising, society, and often our upbringing make us believe that we are lacking. We change our behavior to get the love and support of those who raise us and often lose our individuality for the sake of fitting into the construct of society and family.

Not being enough is big business. It sells us so much of what we don’t really need; and it is an endless project that keeps us numb to what we really feel. There is always something else to strive for, and that striving temporarily overrides the feelings of inadequacy. We strive so hard to be whatever success and love mean to us that we forget that who we are is just fine—that who we are is unique, precious, and inimitable.

I’m not saying that you should not learn new skills or develop yourself; I’m saying that you don’t need to do it from a place of lack. There is a fundamental difference between trying to change to get love, money, fame, looks, etc. (fill in the blank here) in order to feel adequate, and seeing yourself as perfect and complete as a human being, and from there acquiring whatever skills or adjustments are wanted or needed.

Coming from a place of abundance versus a feeling of lack changes everything. When we appreciate our body as the vehicle that allows us to be alive, moving and living in this world, it is much easier to care for it, knowing that by doing so, we serve it better. When you think your body-mind is not what it should be, you are inflicting punishment on it to try to make it become what you want it to be.

The Wild Woman
Michaela Boehm